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I had great time at FOGcon, a small local convention in Walnut Creek, CA, last weekend. I was bit nervous going in because the last few years I've gone with my friend [personal profile] owlmoose but this year she's on the JoCoCruise and so couldn't make it. So I was worried I was going to spend lots of time standing around awkwardly not talking to people. But if fact I talked to many awesome people.

On Friday afternoon I went out to Walnut Creek with R and the kid an we had lunch together before the con. Then I went to get checked in and register for the con. At reg they always have lots of stickers and pens so I wrote pronouns and "Forestofglory" (since my badge listed by legal name) and put some cute stickers on my badge.

Then I went to a panel on "Friends and Found Chosen" which was really interesting. The panelist talked about friendships changing over time, the line between a friend and chosen family member, why queer are more likely to form chosen families, and more.

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In about a week and half, March 8-10 I will be at FOGcon in Walnut Creak CA. It a small local (to me) SFF convention. I'm excited to be spending a weekend talking about books! I'm going to be on a couple of panel which should be fun. Are any of my readers going? Let me know, I'd love to meet up.
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I've been doing fanish stuff almost as long as I can remember but it's only in the last several years I've started to think of myself as someone who's part of fandom and even then it's with caveats about which part of fandom. (Ie SFF book fandom but not really transformative works fandom.) It might be more straight forward to talk about weather I consider myself a fan, but it's not so much about my identity as someone who likes stuff I've always felt comfortable saying I'm a fan in that sense it's more about my sense of belonging to a community.

As kid I used to play pretend games based on my favorite books, have long philosophical arguments with my friends about what book characters should do and just generally obsess of my favorite fictional things. At one point I had a handmade spreadsheet of ElfQuest characters. All of that made me a fan, but since I was mostly doing it by myself it didn’t make me part of fandom.

I first encountered the idea of fandom as teen reading author personal essays about going to cons, voting in the Hugos and doing SWFA stuff. Some of them even talked about writing fanfic. The library had a several collections of Hugo winning stories with commentary by Asimov where he wrote very affectionately about cons and such. (I didn't learn about him assaulting women at cons until years later.) So I knew as a teen that SFF fandom existed but it didn't feel like something I could be part of. It seemed like something you had to go cons to do, and that was pretty scary for me back then.

This was also around this time that my family got home internet access. I was soon joining forums and mailing lists to talk to other people about books on the internet. This would have been in the early 2000s. But at the time I didn’t really think about what I was doing online as fandom that still seemed like something that happened in person.

I’m not sure when exactly I started thinking of myself as part of fandom. Not for a long time after I’d be active in online fandom. Maybe after I started voting in Hugo Awards? When I started writing short fiction recs regularly, which happened soon after? When I started writing for [community profile] ladybusiness? Maybe not until I started going to conventions. I can’t recall a moment when I suddenly thought well I’m in fandom now. Looking back it's a bit sad that I struggled with this so much.

I had imposter syndrome about belonging to fandom. Like me now would definitely tell my teen self that she was part of fandom. But always felt like I was just on the edges of that space.

Right now I’m pretty happy with my place in fandom. I have friends to squee about lovely media with. People read things I rec and enjoy them and that makes me happy. I go to cons and enjoy them. I write a regularly for a Hugo Award winning blog! But all that is because of network I’ve been building up slowly over a long time.

When communities are amorphous and have ill defined boundaries it can be hard to feel like you belong. And when you take part in fandom online but don't go to cons or write fic it can feel like fandom isn't aimed at you. Community is hard. I still sometimes feel like I’m just shouting into the void. Feeling like you belong can be elusive. I want everyone to have fun enjoying media and talking about it with other people, but I’m not really sure how to use my experiences to make people feel included.
forestofglory: E. H. Shepard drawing of Christopher Robin and Pooh floating in a upturned  umbrella , with the word Ahoy in the corner (The Brain of Pooh)
*"Bits and Bobs" is what I call my lots small unrelated things make a post posts. Feel free to comment on only one or two points.

*I've been having many thinky thoughts about DW culture and Tumblr and change but nothing that's solid yet. I've been in retrospective mood thinking about fandom and the past. I'm not quite in transformative works fandom though I've been adjacent to it for years. (I think I'm finally comfortable saying I'm in SFF fandom but for years I would have said I was fandom adjacent there too.) But I've been thinking about my fanish activity online now and it the past. I have really concluded anything. Maybe if I do I'll write a longer post

*Its been raining a lot here. I'm glad we missed out on the polar vortex though -- that looked way too cold. I'm hopeful that we will have another year of not a drought anyways.

*recently I've been trying to learn how to make egg-in-the-hole, you know toast with the egg cooked in it. Sometimes it works better than other times. Luckily it tastes fine even when the egg does go where I want it to go. I think the sliced bread we get is a bit too squishy and I want to get some more nice sourdough and try again with that.


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